The Couples Reset
COMING SOON
Interested in Being One of the First Couples?
I'm currently putting the finishing touches on The Couples Reset, a structured approach I've developed from my years of working with couples and the tools and approaches I've found most effective.
As I introduce the new format, I'll be accepting a small number of couples at a reduced introductory rate in exchange for honest feedback about their experience.
If you think The Couples Reset might be right for your relationship, reach out and mention “Couples Reset.” I'll share more about the format, introductory pricing, and when the first spots become available.
Stop having the same fight over and over again.
Most couples don’t come to therapy because they’ve stopped caring about each other. They come because they’ve gotten stuck in patterns they don’t know how to get out of.
One person pushes for connection while the other pulls away. A small disagreement turns into the same argument you’ve had a hundred times. You both leave feeling misunderstood, defensive, or disconnected—and eventually you start wondering, How did we get here?
The Couples Reset is a structured, skills-focused approach to couples therapy designed to help you understand the patterns underneath your conflict and learn how to communicate differently.
Rather than simply talking through whatever happened that week, we'll actively work on your relationship using principles informed by Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), the Gottman Method, communication coaching, behavioral principles, and research on how partners give and receive love and connection.
We'll work together to:
Identify your recurring pursuer/withdrawer and conflict patterns
Understand what each of you is really needing underneath the argument
Learn to communicate without immediately becoming defensive, shutting down, or escalating
Recognize how each partner experiences and receives love, connection, and appreciation
Practice concrete tools for repairing after conflict
Strengthen friendship, intimacy, and emotional connection
Create new patterns you can continue using long after therapy ends
This isn't therapy you stay in forever.
The Couples Reset is designed to be focused and intentional. Sessions are longer than a traditional 50-minute therapy hour because meaningful couples work takes time, and you'll have exercises and things to practice between sessions.
The goal isn't a perfect relationship or never arguing again.
It's learning how to find your way back to each other when you do.
Why I Created The Couples Reset
I believe couples therapy should be more than a place to have the same argument with a therapist in the room.
I was fortunate to receive intensive training in couples work early in my career. For approximately two years, I worked under direct supervision twice a week with experienced couples therapists who listened to my sessions, watched the work unfold, and gave me specific feedback about what I was doing—and what I could do differently.
During that time, I worked with dozens of couples and continued receiving individual supervision and training as I developed my skills. Couples work became something I had a real affinity for, and when I moved into private practice, I went on to work with many more couples.
Eventually, though, I took a break from it.
I found myself increasingly frustrated with couples therapy that became an hour of rehashing the argument of the week. I didn't want to simply referee conflict or provide a safe place for couples to argue. I wanted our time together to actually change what happened when they went home.
That break gave me an opportunity to think about what I believe makes couples work useful.
The Couples Reset grew out of that.
It's more structured, more active, and more skills-focused than the way I had previously practiced. We'll identify the patterns you get caught in, understand what's happening underneath them, and actually practice communicating differently. I draw from EFT, Gottman-informed principles, behavioral science, communication coaching, and research and frameworks around connection and how partners experience love and appreciation.
There will still be plenty of room for emotion. But I won't just sit back and listen while you have the same fight you've been having at home.
My goal is to help you recognize that fight sooner, understand why you keep getting pulled into it, and learn how to do something different when it happens.